Is it a good try to wait for perfect timing and space to do certain important things.?

All 18 images are not perfect, but we can say 8th (by scanning row-wise) is close to perfect. So perfect should not be destination(because it’s not as you can see in image i.e. 18th image, very far from being the one), it’s a process and somewhere in middle we got our best thing.

Recently, we had a small function in our house, but my thought was to postpone it as I think we are not in perfect space but as Indian family never listen to their children. And here I am, more than happy that the thing happen the way it happened.

I have seen many of my neighbors doing the necessity thing and they don’t wait for that so called “perfect time”.

Being an overthinker, have the tendency to delay the things giving the excuse of something not right at that moment.

Let’s understand this with a scenario where a person wants to start vlogging but believes she doesn’t have the perfect camera or lenses to capture the moments. Meanwhile, another person begins vlogging with just her regular phone, gaining enough experience and income to eventually purchase that ideal camera. The first person remains caught up in her quest for the perfect equipment, while the second one makes progress by starting with what she has.

When we start with what we have, we can start with zero budget, do experiments and set aside our anxiety. Waiting for perfect resources/ equipment/ time can lead to anxiety and waste the precious time of life.

Remember, nothing is perfect in life even the stars made by hand. You can always begin with your current situation so called imperfect and can be on a path to being perfect but it’s not necessary that final step/ stage is all perfect.

A cliche line can fit here perfectly😉: IMPERFECT itself is I-M-Perfect (I am perfect).

Perfect is progress!!

Menaka Sangwan

Could Seeing the Sun in evening is considered a basic?

Lately, there have been multiple videos▶️ making rounds on the internet about self-improvement. The one common advice across these videos is to wake up and go to bed early, eat home-cooked meals, and be consistent with your efforts.

Similarly, I can recall another time when I met a friend last month, one of her family members was having some lung issues due to smoking. Doctor asked him to quit smoking and perform breathing exercises🧘🏻‍♀️.

One such incident is when I had a dental issue, and dentist emphasized on the importance of brushing my teeth🦷✨ before going to bed.

What message do these situations communicate?

In childhood, our school told us to have a habit chart📃 that lists essential habits everyone should incorporate into their daily routine. As we grow older, we tend to forget the habits we learned in childhood. Our sleep schedules shift🥱, physical activity levels change, and other factors come into play. In adulthood, basic tasks can become more complex, making it harder to maintain fundamental habits that are crucial for our well-being.

As we reach in college, waking up till late night and having junk is considered cool. Later in job we face some issues like back-pain for prolonged sitting hours, cavities, dark circles for quite some obvious reasons despite being aware of all known causes. Over time, we’ve become more aware of our choices and are striving to return to the fundamental habits we learned in childhood, such as discipline, have home cooked food, exercise and going to bed early, among others.

Preparing for exams can be an anxious😫 process during exam time, but if we study consistently throughout the year, covering the syllabus efficiently and on time can become much easier.

All these are very basic things and we all knew about them since childhood but in middle we somewhat get distracted. To live a healthy and peaceful life, we don’t need to accomplish extraordinary feats🥸, but rather focus on adhering to basic principles🤏.

Thinking Makes Her Write

Menaka Sangwan

From being disciplined in actions to chaos in head
From being a dependent kid to an independent adult
Waking up at 4 in morning to sleeping at 2 in night
We all grew up!

Waking up by Mamma’s sweet voice to cringe Alarm sound
From preparing school dress at night to doing everything in morning rush
Changing schools every 3 years to a permanent job
We all grew up!

Asking money for a lollipop to buying luxury things with own money
Saving 10 bucks to spending thousands
Carrying phone secretly in school to openly using at work
We all grew up!

Loving birthdays to celebrating work anniversaries
Avoiding tea to consuming caffeine at work
Passing in classes to promotions in jobs
Namaste to good mornings
We all grew up!

Do we really grow up or just acting👩‍🦯 like the one?

I’m an adult now, no longer a child, why God?🧝🏼‍♀️

Menaka Sangwan

She loves the sunflower and I give her all the sunshine.

Oops… but this is not a sunflower but definitely there is SUN!!

It all started a day before when she thought of going out. She is not so good with decision taking but I’m glad that she took this. She resists to move her body from bed in the morning. But after a lot of struggle and thinking, she finally agreed and left her soft comfy bed. She put on some romantic music and had a chill pill on it. Later she took a shower and dressed up in a cute dress which she bought 5 years ago and applied eyeliner which is her current favorite. Wore the sneakers, took her sling bag and were ready to leave the home which is very heavy for her to say see off. She walked for some K steps and took a cab to the destination. The destination is her recent favorite coffee house. Ordered her common coffee with a brunch. Had brunch and read the book “Hell Yeah or No” for some time and think about the thoughts while reading. Looking around at people and observing few things, with gratitude in heart, finally left the place. Then she marched towards the showroom where she purchased a shirt and moved to her next all-time favorite destination i.e. bookstore where she surfed a few books and after doing some overthinking over 2 books she bought both of them by remembering the Gregory Corso “if you can’t decide between two things, take both of them home“. After books she headed towards a flower shop, took some flowers for her vase and moved happily towards home with a big smile on face. Reached home, and lie in bed for quite some time, and then wrote her gratitude journal. Watched a movie that was procrastinated from past 2 weeks. I think she is happy and really enjoyed the day.

Hope to have some of them quite often.

A great day to be with HER!

More Such Days To Come..

Menaka Sangwan

(Daily ritual of running thoughts in metro to office)

It’s crowded today, not again!

Let me put some music.

(while searching earbuds in my sling bag) Ah!! This is my cute diary. When I went to buy this, that watchman was looking at me as if I was a hoarder of diary and which is true too.

Earbuds.!!buds!? where are you?

I forgot to bring them as I kept them on charge. Order almonds.!

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Why I’m going to office? I should take leave today as I have sufficient of them in my account.

Ahh! This is the same book I saw on my Instagram story. Argh! so small font that I can’t read from 45 cm distance.

Tomorrow I’ll bring a book to read or listen to some good podcast if I remember to bring earbuds.

People have their choices for tea or coffee, here I am not able to decide which Tee to wear.

This little boy is so annoying, being a child is fun.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Oh, this uncle is fast asleep or just pretending to sleep.

Are these people together?

I should increase the length of my bag or it’s just perfect?

Pimples are so irritating.

Let me send this reel to my brother.

Life is so boring without a tool to listen to your playlist in public.

Argh, Why do I have freeze in my hair?

I want short hair and maybe straight too!

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Ouch, my hand hurts. Maybe I slept in discomfort position. Daily stuff Menaka.

15 minutes are left to reach the destination. I should read the newspaper daily but handling of pages is quite complex.

Aah! I have a cute case to my phone.

Seeing videos in inaudible mode sucks!!

He replied with a smile emoji. Emoji’s full form is an emoticon.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

बाएं is left or right.?

This station may be an interchange as many passengers are de-boarding here.

Now it’s 8:45 and 3 stations are left, maybe I reach till 8:51 and today I’ll be on time, yeah.

I have to send a mail just after I reach office. Remember it, Menaka!!

Why do so many people travel through metro?

I should buy another pair of jeans, but of no use as I am gonna wear this only. My favvv.

Dwarf Man.. It will be going to be the best day as I saw a dwarf man.

Should I start moving close to door or can wait for another 1/2 minute?

Move, wait, wait, move. Excuse me Uncle I want to de-board here. Menaka, speak loudly.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

It’s 8:53, I should walk fast to reach on time.

Metro card? I had put it in right pocket no left pocket, my left hand is free so I have put it in left pocket. Yes, it’s in the left pocket. I am so intellectual.

The lift is on ground floor, should I use stairs or wait. Let’s walk towards stairs.

The steps are wide, Wide is length or breadth?

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Hurry up, We are almost there!

I’ll have juice today not samosa in evening snack.

Snack, why it is not snake. Ewww. .. I can’t have a snake, snack is fine.

Where is my 25-number tree? Aww, my favorite tree!

This black dog is too cute, maybe I should adopt a dog as a pet.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

(And many more thoughts of this creepy brain which is not leaving me alone)

Processing thoughts at high speed. Am I a 96 Core Processor?

Menaka Sangwan