Year: 2024

She loves the sunflower and I give her all the sunshine.

Oops… but this is not a sunflower but definitely there is SUN!!

It all started a day before when she thought of going out. She is not so good with decision taking but I’m glad that she took this. She resists to move her body from bed in the morning. But after a lot of struggle and thinking, she finally agreed and left her soft comfy bed. She put on some romantic music and had a chill pill on it. Later she took a shower and dressed up in a cute dress which she bought 5 years ago and applied eyeliner which is her current favorite. Wore the sneakers, took her sling bag and were ready to leave the home which is very heavy for her to say see off. She walked for some K steps and took a cab to the destination. The destination is her recent favorite coffee house. Ordered her common coffee with a brunch. Had brunch and read the book “Hell Yeah or No” for some time and think about the thoughts while reading. Looking around at people and observing few things, with gratitude in heart, finally left the place. Then she marched towards the showroom where she purchased a shirt and moved to her next all-time favorite destination i.e. bookstore where she surfed a few books and after doing some overthinking over 2 books she bought both of them by remembering the Gregory Corso “if you can’t decide between two things, take both of them home“. After books she headed towards a flower shop, took some flowers for her vase and moved happily towards home with a big smile on face. Reached home, and lie in bed for quite some time, and then wrote her gratitude journal. Watched a movie that was procrastinated from past 2 weeks. I think she is happy and really enjoyed the day.

Hope to have some of them quite often.

A great day to be with HER!

More Such Days To Come..

Menaka Sangwan

(Daily ritual of running thoughts in metro to office)

It’s crowded today, not again!

Let me put some music.

(while searching earbuds in my sling bag) Ah!! This is my cute diary. When I went to buy this, that watchman was looking at me as if I was a hoarder of diary and which is true too.

Earbuds.!!buds!? where are you?

I forgot to bring them as I kept them on charge. Order almonds.!

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Why I’m going to office? I should take leave today as I have sufficient of them in my account.

Ahh! This is the same book I saw on my Instagram story. Argh! so small font that I can’t read from 45 cm distance.

Tomorrow I’ll bring a book to read or listen to some good podcast if I remember to bring earbuds.

People have their choices for tea or coffee, here I am not able to decide which Tee to wear.

This little boy is so annoying, being a child is fun.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Oh, this uncle is fast asleep or just pretending to sleep.

Are these people together?

I should increase the length of my bag or it’s just perfect?

Pimples are so irritating.

Let me send this reel to my brother.

Life is so boring without a tool to listen to your playlist in public.

Argh, Why do I have freeze in my hair?

I want short hair and maybe straight too!

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Ouch, my hand hurts. Maybe I slept in discomfort position. Daily stuff Menaka.

15 minutes are left to reach the destination. I should read the newspaper daily but handling of pages is quite complex.

Aah! I have a cute case to my phone.

Seeing videos in inaudible mode sucks!!

He replied with a smile emoji. Emoji’s full form is an emoticon.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

बाएं is left or right.?

This station may be an interchange as many passengers are de-boarding here.

Now it’s 8:45 and 3 stations are left, maybe I reach till 8:51 and today I’ll be on time, yeah.

I have to send a mail just after I reach office. Remember it, Menaka!!

Why do so many people travel through metro?

I should buy another pair of jeans, but of no use as I am gonna wear this only. My favvv.

Dwarf Man.. It will be going to be the best day as I saw a dwarf man.

Should I start moving close to door or can wait for another 1/2 minute?

Move, wait, wait, move. Excuse me Uncle I want to de-board here. Menaka, speak loudly.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

It’s 8:53, I should walk fast to reach on time.

Metro card? I had put it in right pocket no left pocket, my left hand is free so I have put it in left pocket. Yes, it’s in the left pocket. I am so intellectual.

The lift is on ground floor, should I use stairs or wait. Let’s walk towards stairs.

The steps are wide, Wide is length or breadth?

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

Hurry up, We are almost there!

I’ll have juice today not samosa in evening snack.

Snack, why it is not snake. Ewww. .. I can’t have a snake, snack is fine.

Where is my 25-number tree? Aww, my favorite tree!

This black dog is too cute, maybe I should adopt a dog as a pet.

Teri baaton mein aisa uljha jiya. Teri baaton me.

(And many more thoughts of this creepy brain which is not leaving me alone)

Processing thoughts at high speed. Am I a 96 Core Processor?

Menaka Sangwan

A very well-known story of “The Jar🫙of Life”. Basic concept is to prioritize 📌 the things in life and not waste living a mundane life. The JAR represents life of a person and rocks, pebbles & sands are three category in which various things of life are categorized. There is always a puzzle 🧩 in life to fill the jar in most optimized form so that it is completely full and no space left in jar. If we fill the jar with pile of sand first then there will we less room for rocks(the most important one) and pebbles. So, have to prioritize the things which is most important in life first and then the other things.

But one thing should not to forget that the sand is important too, without sand there is always some vacuum in jar with rocks and pebbles and sand COMPLETELY 🍚 fills the jar of life.

I brought this bottle for daily use until I posted this post 😛
Note: The examples mentioned in the post are very personal and can be updated as per individual needs.

🗿Stones: represent the family, health and basic needs

Stones are big things that should be prioritized before anything in life. It includes family, health (physical and emotional), and other basic needs. Stones are tough to break and so are the things in this category. Some of the things that can fall into this category are listed below-

  • Parents, friends and siblings
  • Drink 8 glasses of water every day
  • When going to canteen choose funk-free food and non-carbonated drinks(try not to go in first place😅)
  • Have a bowl of different seasonal fruits
  • Exercise daily
  • Walk for a minimum 8K steps
  • Skincare and haircare routine
  • Gratitude before bed
  • Journal everyday

🪨Pebbles: metaphor for career and hobbies

Pebbles are smaller than stone, and so are the categories falling under it. After sand, the jar must be filled with pebbles. Pebbles are important to live a meaningful life. Without a career and passion, life became bore and chore. Pebbles make life worthy of living. Some of the pebble things can be

  • Find your purpose and work towards it
  • Follow hobbies along with routine work
  • Buy and read SELF-HELP books  
  • Learn new skills
  • Read the chapter/page on a physical copy

⌛️Sand: is minor, everyday concerns

Sand is the tinniest of all the three and is required to fill the jar completely after rocks and pebbles. Without sand there is always some vacuum in jar with rocks & pebbles and sand COMPLETELY 🍚 fills the jar of life which may include the following

  • Daily watch an episode of your favorite show
  • Read/ watch daily news
  • Practice being equanimity
  • Daily routine chores of house
  • Sit and have chit-chat with family

ACTIVITY 🧗: List things done on a particular day and try to categorize in one of 3 categories and check the priority to be given. The priorities can be changed at later stage so try to do this activity often.

P.S. This website is my pebble.

Thank you 🙏 for stopping by! I appreciate your time.

⚠️ Disclaimer: This is a work of fiction and truly an imagination of the mind. Resemblance to any situation is a coincidence.

The first day I saw you in October

Thinking the day I’ll never remember

You are so handsome

Thanking god for some

Then noticing each and every day

Like a person passing nearby

The first day I saw you in October

The no interaction in canteen

Is the biggest caffeine 

Thereby first-eye interaction

Is your plan to mention

First eye gaze is random 

But I got to know you are my atom

My eyes keep looking for you 

You are a little breeze of air in summer

The first day I saw you in October

That match outfit by coincidence

Is the best thing about my ordinance

Your sparkling shining purple Diwali outfit is the best fit

Your white t-shirt showing your muscles is body fit

Started making me follow the gym bit

I need you in every situation 

Want to have you in every conversation

The first day I saw you in October

You motivate me to make an effort

In which you are my biggest support

Earlier I am seeing you from opposite side 

Now with you at your side

I see you in winter, autumn, summer, and spring

You never fail to make my heart ring

You make my day the brightest

This is me saying the slightest 

The first day I saw you in October

My eyes keep looking for you

And when we meet I can’t resist you

You are the kindest creature

Having the beautiful feature

I pray for the smallest interaction

But got none mentioned

The day I am losing hope 

Saw you in my horoscope 

The first day I saw you in October

In summer you are my shadow 

And my sun in winters

Your black shades I fall for

& then comes the cap I die for

You make my heart beat fast

You are my forever last 

The 5 seconds of eye contact is my die-for moment for a whole week 

A dose that will make me wait for next week

Your smile is a blessing I got 

Just can’t keep my eyes off your favorite spot

The first day I saw you in October

Thank you dear 

For being always near

I know you care for me more than I do

But still I’ll say I do more than you do

The first day I saw you in October

Thinking the day I’ll never remember

Is it literally You and Me? 🙈

^^!!

Menaka Sangwan

Who is this human being? Is she an overthinker??

When I have stress at work or life in general, later that night my mind woke up at 2-3 am and the issues started popping🤔 up in my mind and I started thinking about the issue. While thinking about the issue at night, most of my thoughts are negative ☠️ about the situation. I only think about whatever can go wrong, it turns out to be the opposite in the morning; my thoughts are more positive and solution-oriented✍️.

Therefore, the time of the day may influence our thoughts.

The starting 5 minutes ⏱️ to overthinking can change the situation. When we realize that we are moving into a zone of negative thinking at night just do an exercise to convince the mind that for thinking about the topic we have reserved the time in the morning (time should be allocated to scribble about things💁‍♀️ prior). Mind can relax at night and can start thinking in reserved time in the morning and this morning time gives you positive outcomes and results.

Here is a trick🤹🏻‍♀️ in it, the night-time can be utilized to overcome something tough for you to do in a day. You can think about a bad habit 🤦‍♀️ in the night and all negative thoughts will start to appear and this can be used to break that vicious habit.

Thank you 🙏 for reading! We’ll see each other 👀 next time, till then dream about your big things💫.

Environment affects!!

Menaka Sangwan